Um...Was that a Compliment?

"How do I look?"
"Wow. I could never look that good in a <insert item of clothing> that small."
Great. So, do I look good? Do I just look better than you would? Did you just compliment me or...what? Everyone knows those people who say something bad about themselves before they are ever willing to say something good about you. Apparently, in order to make you feel good they are going to need to feel bad. I mean I guess it's not the worst thing that could happen. But instead of suddenly feeling good for getting a compliment or even feeling appreciative of said compliment, you feel guilty (that is if you actually like this friend which we will assume you do). I always feel the need to overcompensate when my friends say things like that which takes the attention off of me, which (hello!) I love the spotlight. I try never to say things that put me down, it makes me feel bad and everyone else uncomfortable. Everyone is different never compare yourself to someone else, ever. It's like comparing an eskimo to banana cream pie. They don't have anything in common. Just be nice to yourself! There is no better way to learn to love yourself than to pretend you already do.
"Do you like my <insert physical feature> this way?"
"Well you pull it off better than so and so."
For real? Did you just say that? Okay this is going to be my biggest pet peeve tonight BECAUSE it has happened to me where I'm the "so and so". In their defense they didn't know I could hear. Wait, did I say in their defense? Because honestly you shouldn't say that no matter who is listening. It isn't a compliment! It is rude and classless and is bound to make someone feel bad. I do not understand how someone could be so untactful as to not understand that saying something like is inappropriate. Especially when you are friends with them. Ya, ok, I get the blunt end of of the stick a lot when it comes to jokes, but ya know whatever it's all in fun. But that isn't funny. It is just mean. You wanna bring a girl's self esteem down to the pits and really make her feel bad? Compare her negatively to another girl. There is nothing more detrimental to a girl's self esteem. I really hope that the moment the words came out she re-thought her statement. It's really hard to feel love towards someone who says terrible things to you. But alas, people said terrible things to Jesus and he still loved them all, so I try.
I'd just like to say if you can't muster up a sincere compliment, with kindness, that doesn't put anyone in a position of negative word then don't bother mustering up a compliment at all. Saying nothing is better than saying something that could mess up someone's whole night, week, sometimes life.